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Comment on Let’s learn from George Clooney by amy

amy — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 12:39:37 +0000

Laurie! I too saw the movie and was moved by that moment, as heartbreaking as it was. Sadly, some people are not well-equipped for change, or to anticipate it — but, for those who are more likely to do for others than to do for themselves, it was a motivating scene. I wrote a post on my blog recently called ‘what’s next?’, also about the importance of planning for change – or plan B as you refer to it. Chances are change is coming, whether we plan for it or not! Thanks for the post!

Amy

Comment on What matters to you? by Rosemary James

Rosemary James — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 04:17:09 +0000

Laurie, you hit the nail on the head for me. It seems overwhelming and a daunting task to come up with a list of things I am passionate about. And causes, don’t get me started. Last night I did do some brainstorming. I wrote down whatever came to my mind when I thought about what I believe in; what I enjoy doing; what my God given talents are. Now I will use these words to Google and see what happens. I like the idea that we live “on purpose” instead of searching for a purpose. Thanks, Laurie.

Comment on Stand for Something by Amy

Amy — Thu, 13 May 2010 00:20:22 +0000

Laurie:

I love that when you write your passion oozes out of every word. Your energy and enthusiasm is contagious. Clearly you know who you are and I am grateful to say – me too! Keep up the great work.

Amy
@ParmFarm

Comment on Stand for Something by Rosemary James

Rosemary James — Fri, 07 May 2010 16:03:08 +0000

I think I get what you mean. I have been one of those people who have been looking outside of my self for my passion/purpose. I need to look at the WHY more and to delve inside of me. I have used the same excuses in the past as you mentioned. There are too many other people doing the same thing; or they do it better than I could do it. Lately I have been working on being more authentic. Last night, for the first time, I think, in my life, I was able to speak from my heart to someone, without fear of reprisal. I spoke to this person about what I value in myself. Although at times it was heart wrenching, I felt so empowered by my own words. There was still some emotion entwined, but I spoke from my heart and it felt good. With that said, I have also begun to take stock of what is important to me. I went on a medical mission last year to India. I also volunteered at the C.A.R.E.S. clinic at Bartle Hall last December. I so enjoyed helping those who needed my help. I have begun to think about participating in more medical missions. I also love animals. Again though, I would be volunteering my time to work with animals. I have an autistic grandson. I learned about the Son-Rise program, which helps parents and family work with their children to recover from autism. I want to go to their start-up program; but I also want to go through their training program for facilitators. I see a pattern here of “service to others”. I have also had the opportunity to do outreach service within my own community, thanks in part to my church. How do I take all of these experiences/desires/passions and roll them in to a viable, income producing, life fulfilling, job? Therein lies my dilemma. Help, Laurie!

Comment on Divas with Drive: You ready to rock? by admin

admin — Sun, 02 May 2010 19:10:08 +0000

Yay, I’m so glad you did Melody! Thanks!

Comment on Divas with Drive: You ready to rock? by Melody Granger

Melody Granger — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 06:17:10 +0000

Hey Laurie, I could not resist leaving a comment since you have mentioned things like scattered and disorganized. My professional organizing brain kicked in! I love what you are doing and wanted to share a quote with you and your followers…

“Attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them.” Eckhart Tolle

Ane Axeford of highly sensitive people shared this as a tweet and I HAVE to keep it going because it is soooo true.

Comment on Have a point of view by admin

admin — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 03:46:02 +0000

Yay ladies. I’m so proud of you for speaking up and doing it on here for all the world to see! Well… you know what I mean. It’s a step and it’s one you’ll remember taking the next time you feel that urge to keep quiet or the urge to speak up and you will definitely make the right choice. Rock on Ladies!! So happy to know you!

Comment on Have a point of view by Rosemary James

Rosemary James — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 02:50:56 +0000

I have found that as I have grown older I do have a point of view! I used to be the meek and mild, peace keeper, never want to hurt anybody’s feelings kind of girl. As I have come in to my womanhood, and got rid of an abusive husband, I’ve been able to speak up more. I have found my voice. Yes, sometimes I’m not the most popular person in the conversation. However, I find being honest about my feelings or my point of view empowers me.
I have to be honest. I am still working on rebuilding my self esteem. I have issues with depression. I realized that I needed to do something constructive to make positive changes in my life. I was so used to being put down or being told I didn’t know what I was talking about. I tried being assertive, using “I” statements. I tried everything I knew to get my point across without falling back in to my old passive/aggressive self. I became so frustrated that I just crawled back in to my shell.
I rekindled a relationship with a fellow I went to high school with. He is in CA and I am in MO. As we began to get to know one another again, I realized that he had some pretty strong view points on certain issues. Some times he would say things to me, either on the phone or by email. I sometimes felt he was putting me down or that he thought he “knew it all”. In the past I would have allowed him to continue speaking to me in that manner. I was not going to let that happen to me again. As the article stated, I didn’t use harsh words or try to sound condescending. I also knew in my heart that if he responded negatively, then that was it. I wasn’t afraid of “losing” him. Well, surprise, surprise! He actually was willing to talk about it like an adult and he has in some instances, apologized! Sometimes we just agree to disagree! We have learned a lot more about each other this way. I’m not saying we haven’t had our arguments, because we certainly have. But it has been refreshing to find someone who I can practice my assertive skills with!
One of the things that I have found aggravating is when people who say they are “authentic” and say they are transparent, are actually very “self-centered”. I have a friend I’ve known almost 23 years. Whenever she had “man” issues or was feeling depressed, who do you think she called for a shoulder to cry on? As a matter of fact, I had 2 friends like that! One day I went to lunch with friend #1. I talked about some things that were going on in my life. The next day I received an email saying that the next time we got together she wanted more time to talk about her! She said I had spent too much time talking about my problems. Suffice to say, we are still friends, sort of. She doesn’t call me and I don’t call her, unless it’s getting close to a birthday or Christmas. Friend #2 and I don’t speak at all. Even though I held out the olive branch to her. The common denominator in both these relationships was me. I allowed these women to use me. I didn’t assert myself when I should have.
Having shared these examples, I want to say that I am so excited to be a part of this new community of women. I am also involved with a wonderful church family. I am seeing a counselor as well. I’ve come to the conclusion that once you start taking better care of yourself, you draw healthier people into your life.
Thank you for letting me rip one off! And thanks for all the hard work you have put in to your life coaching.

Comment on Have a point of view by Brenda Nicholson

Brenda Nicholson — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 01:24:34 +0000

You are absolutely right! I know that I am often guilty of staying silence to keep the peace, but on the few occasions that I have spoken up, I find that others often join me. All they needed was someone to break the ice.

Comment on Be Clueless by Rosemary James

Rosemary James — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 14:02:56 +0000

I am guilty on all counts. Since I haven’t been working that much, I spend a lot of time at home. I turn the TV on for noise and company during the day. And I have to watch all 3 newscasts. I try to multi-task, by doing chores or taking care of business issues. I love reading too; yet when I start reading, I get drowsy and have to stop. I find that when my son comes over, we find other things to do and I can go without the TV. We even watched Dr. Wayne Dyer’s DVD on the Power of Intention. Phil fell asleep and I watched almost all of the 1st DVD. I think I need to force myself to turn the TV off. Isn’t it true that it takes at least 21 days to change a habit? That will be my challenge. To keep the TV off for 21 days; except to watch DVd’s such as Dr. Wayne Dyer’s. Thanks Laurie for being Clueless. I’m going to try it!